Trans ppl said kys on and now they’re claiming violence lol No I think it’s comparable to actual violence against independently thinking women, violence TRAs frequently offer You all really think that being bullied on tumblr is comparable to a witch hunt lol. I wish they did, and I am doing my part to be visible and out to help those who need to see their future in a real life lesbian. I would urge you to have some sympathy, to look at the lives of others not in your bubble or echo chamber and see that not everyone has an easy path to discover or live their true passionate best lesbian life. it will go away” or perhaps they fear loss of safety, home, family and security and they hope ( or try to believe) that if they try hard enough, they can learn to be happy in a heterosexual role. Or possibly, they are well aware of their same sex attraction but have been told it is “not real” or a “Phase” or “girl crushes are normal. So call it Comp Het or call it societal influences or call it “trying to fit it” or call it internalized homophobia, but dating, having sex with, marrying men is something many young lesbians do because they mistrust the feelings they have since they have no life model to go by. I can tell you, as someone that looked my entire childhood to see older women like me, that missing piece can cause us to mistrust our own feelings and act in opposition to what we really need to be happy. I get Facebook and Tumblr messages, and now some on Tiktok, telling me they know no older butches IRL or any lesbians of any age. Many kids, internet access or no, are isolated from real life Lesbian role models. laws do not change attitudes nor stop families (and random strangers) from letting us know they think our natural attraction is wrong or perverted. (or could be) and many of my friends lived when it was down right illegal to be same sex attracted. I lived in a time when it was dangerous to be out. I have raised foster kids who were kicked from middle class homes for being gay or being to “girly for a boy”. If you are lucky enough to have zero backlash for your orientation or presentation or maybe you are just THAT strong to avoid that bullshit seeping into your brain, kudos to you and congratulations on privileges few of us have. I am active with an LGBT youth and adult support center and in lesbian mentor circles and on line, and trust me, what you think about “things changing in our favour” is wrong. she just likes boys clothes and short hair. she is not trans nor sees herself as GNC. She takes crap every day for “dressing like a boy” or “wanting to be a man”. I raised many kids and still have one in school. Young femmes are told they are “too pretty to be lesbians”. Butches are told they are predators or “manly”. Young lesbians are still sexualized and demeaned for liking women. Young gay men are still called “f%^gots” by their peers. You can’t just pick a random year “idk like 1985″ as the year that “TADA. The whole “find a nice man” crap is bullshit for any sexual orientation but yet, it is still held up as the ideal. It is not really the fault of society, statistically, most people will be straight. This is still very much the societal expectation. What is celebrated as normal is to find a “nice man” and get married and have kids. Lesbians are still very much raised surrounded by straight being the “healthy default”. Laws don’t change religion, family dynamics, cultural traditions, or attitudes.
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